cub99str: Tips for meeting women on the Internet
Tips for meeting women on the Internet
Apr 6, 10 at 02:36pm
There are many venues to meet women on the internet – from dating sites, discussion forums, common-interest groups and the list goes on. The experience can be pleasant or turn into a nightmare. A lot depends on your approach. I've suggested to the males I know, not to think of a specific result, but think in terms of getting to know different women, casually and as friends first. You can't go in expecting a wife in five days. Take time to get to know people for who they are and you might find what you are seeking.
Some tips:
1. If the person doesn't have a picture posted, don't ask for one too soon. This implies that your focus is only the physical. You are entitled to a picture, but asking for it first thing is a turn-off for many women. They want to be seen for the person they are. Get to know them a little by exchanging a couple of emails and then politely ask if they have a picture.
2. Don't give out your phone number in the first message. It makes you look desperate. Wait until there is a comfort level on both sides.
3. Don't lie about your age. What if you meet someone in person, really like them and both parties want to continue into a relationship? The truth of your age will eventually come out and you'll be seen as a liar. What else have you lied about will be questioned.
4. Don't lie about your marital status. If you are separated, say so. Separated is not the same as being divorced.
5. Be confident in who you are, what you have to offer in your profile or description of yourself, but don't embellish to the point you can't live up to your own words.
6. Don't set your criteria so high that a woman being 1" too short will be cast away. She might just be your dream woman, but how will you know if that inch separates you from finding out? Does 10 extra pounds bother you THAT much? Maybe she's not the problem.
7. Have something to say. You won't get to know someone if your messages are no more than three words.
8. Show genuine interest. If you only talk about yourself and never probe into the person she is, her interests, her life, you'll come across as one-sided. She'll soon realize that you would probably be like this in a relationship. Be a good listener as well as a good conversationalist.
9. Be in tune to the pace the woman is setting in getting to know you. Be respectful to her pace and her feelings. Don't push too hard.
10. Be truthful about what you are seeking. If you only want a romp in the hay, don't pretend you have anything more to offer.
11. Don't give out too much personal information too soon. A woman will wonder if you do this with everyone. Not to mention, there are some crazy females out there as well as males.
12. Know your boundaries before you start looking and stick to them. Use common sense. Use your instincts. Don't allow hormones to make your decision for you.
13. Be truthful about yourself in all respects, so that getting to know someone else is based on that truth, not a lie.
14. Don't make fun of other women you are meeting, such as them being overweight, having a long nose or whatever. The person you're trying to impress may have a little weight on themselves and immediately see that they'll never live up to what they "perceive" to be your expectations. She may fit into your criteria very well, but the way you talk about other women may give another impression. She may lose interest because of fear of rejection.
Some tips:
1. If the person doesn't have a picture posted, don't ask for one too soon. This implies that your focus is only the physical. You are entitled to a picture, but asking for it first thing is a turn-off for many women. They want to be seen for the person they are. Get to know them a little by exchanging a couple of emails and then politely ask if they have a picture.
2. Don't give out your phone number in the first message. It makes you look desperate. Wait until there is a comfort level on both sides.
3. Don't lie about your age. What if you meet someone in person, really like them and both parties want to continue into a relationship? The truth of your age will eventually come out and you'll be seen as a liar. What else have you lied about will be questioned.
4. Don't lie about your marital status. If you are separated, say so. Separated is not the same as being divorced.
5. Be confident in who you are, what you have to offer in your profile or description of yourself, but don't embellish to the point you can't live up to your own words.
6. Don't set your criteria so high that a woman being 1" too short will be cast away. She might just be your dream woman, but how will you know if that inch separates you from finding out? Does 10 extra pounds bother you THAT much? Maybe she's not the problem.
7. Have something to say. You won't get to know someone if your messages are no more than three words.
8. Show genuine interest. If you only talk about yourself and never probe into the person she is, her interests, her life, you'll come across as one-sided. She'll soon realize that you would probably be like this in a relationship. Be a good listener as well as a good conversationalist.
9. Be in tune to the pace the woman is setting in getting to know you. Be respectful to her pace and her feelings. Don't push too hard.
10. Be truthful about what you are seeking. If you only want a romp in the hay, don't pretend you have anything more to offer.
11. Don't give out too much personal information too soon. A woman will wonder if you do this with everyone. Not to mention, there are some crazy females out there as well as males.
12. Know your boundaries before you start looking and stick to them. Use common sense. Use your instincts. Don't allow hormones to make your decision for you.
13. Be truthful about yourself in all respects, so that getting to know someone else is based on that truth, not a lie.
14. Don't make fun of other women you are meeting, such as them being overweight, having a long nose or whatever. The person you're trying to impress may have a little weight on themselves and immediately see that they'll never live up to what they "perceive" to be your expectations. She may fit into your criteria very well, but the way you talk about other women may give another impression. She may lose interest because of fear of rejection.
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